NTs or the Neurotypical

In her comment to my post “Why are white lies considered ‘politeness’?”, Debra mentions “the NT world.”

Responding to her comment, I wrote in the post scriptum “I doubt that anyone visiting my site would not know what NT, mentioned by Debra, means — but just in case — NT is short for ‘neurotypical’ or, as most people who don’t know any better would probably say — ‘normal.’”

Then I remembered seeing on the Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Forums a question about what NT means and wondered whether, even though within the “autistic” community pretty much everyone knows what the acronym stands for, others are not as familiar with this term.

The NTs who have a good sense of humor and are not easily offended might find amusing the “Institute for the Study of the Neurologically Typical” site, especially the page listing the “diagnostic criteria for 301.666 Normal Personality Disorder.”

That site reminds me of a joke Stephen Shore made during the presentation I saw nearly a year ago (see the entry  “Understanding Autism (for Dummies, by Stephen Shore)” from April 10, 2008) – that his next book will be titled “Understanding Neurotypicals for Dummies.” He even had a slide of a mock book cover with the bullet points saying things like “learn to decode nonspectrum behavior”; “educate children on radical acceptance of differences” (I’m not sure what he meant here, I’m afraid); “successfully communicate without eye contact.”

As I’m still learning and sometimes have trouble navigating American social customs, I could relate to the joke.

Along the similar lines, but much more philosophical is the blog NTs Are Weird written by an adult male who’s autistic.

NTs Are Weird is full of “opinion” entries, as well as plenty of passionate advocacy and “issues” posts. It also includes quite a bit of personal (sometimes very personal) reflections. Overall I found it a fascinating read, and quite philosophical too.

Reading it made me wonder if my son will think and feel like that when he grows up, and I had a bit eerie feeling of reading letters from the future. But it also gave me a desperately sought glimpse into what the world looks like to an autistic adult.

I remember having a somewhat similar feeling when I read posts of adult ADHDers on the Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Forums but also remembered how much some of them disagreed with the way the parents on the forum thought the ADHD kids should be handled.

I wonder what the author of NTs Are Weird and other adults with autism think of the parents’ posts and blogs and how much they hate the parents for saying how stressed or upset they are sometimes by their kids’ behavior. I frequently wonder myself how much my son would hate me, if he knew what I wrote about him (especially in the first post).

Yet, we don’t really hate our children, and at least in my case I actually don’t wish my son were a typical child. He’s very interesting the way he is. I just wish I knew how to deal with some of his “moments” and how to keep “cool” at those times. That is still hard.

I do hope my son will be able to express himself in the future as well as the author of NTs Are Weird. He’s not much of a talker, he doesn’t like handwriting, and doesn’t know how to type (yet, I’ll make sure he learns). So I don’t really know what’s going on in this 2e head of his.

Going back to NTs Are Weird, I got very intrigued by the post “Disability Awareness Day” (Sepember 28th, 2008)  and was somewhat surprised by the negative responses to the idea #2, because I like this idea the most. I would add the following exercise to the list — go into a room with strobe lights flashing, music blaring and several TVs turned on, each to a different channel. Have a teacher read a story and then quiz the students on how much they remember from the story and if they do not remember much, have the teacher complain that they should have “tried harder” to concentrate on the story.

I’m also curious though why the author of the NTs Are Weird thinks “ABA is unethical” (“Negative Definitions,” January 10th, 2009) I did not read the entire NTs Are Weird but I did use the search engine and could not find more posts about that. ABA seems to be like a religious doctrine in “correcting” the behaviors of children with autism – everyone seems to be expected to do it and believe in its efficacy.